As I draw closer to graduating college, I find myself looking into the past almost as much as I peer into my future. I think about the dreams, goals, hard work and other moments in my life that continue to mold me into who I am today.
There is a sad reality that I have come to realize and unfortunately accept. As a child, I, along with many others, was asked: “What do you want to be when you grow up?” The answers were usually pretty out there; there were zero restrictions on what I could become. However, as I grew older, I found that this question isn’t a good one to ask children anymore.
I believe this because, life is no longer about going out and pursuing what you want. It’s about what you can get that will allow you to survive. Jobs are scarce and I can recount numerous times in which my friends, family members or other random people I knew have been strayed away from their true passions because the “job market is scarce” for their desired profession. How sad is it that we can no longer go after our dreams without worrying about whether that dream will provide food, shelter, and the basic needs of any individual?
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Looking back, I wonder if I did enough; did I participate in enough extra-curricular activities? Did I work hard enough to be considered a good candidate for a job? These couple of questions are just a small portion of the things that run through my mind sometimes as I grow older.
“Everyone is a self-saboteur at some point. With that being the case, then the thing that people are sabotaging is simply an infatuation and their subconscious mind is keeping them from making a mistake.”
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This complex grouping of words was written down and thought of by one of the smartest people I know, Anthony DiCastri. I met him about a year ago and he discussed his fascination with the human mind and the way that our lives revolve around things that are hard to control. It makes me and others really think about the decisions that we make every day and what drives us to make them.
To explain this quote, I wanted to use the explanation that he gave me word for word using relationships as an example:
“Everyone sabotages a relationship in their lives. The relationship you unknowingly sabotage is nothing but a foolish attraction to that person. Your sub-conscious mind is keeping you from making a mistake by staying with that person. There will be someone better coming along later in life that fits you better than the person you just broke up with.”
Having someone in your life to keep you grounded and calm when things are falling apart is important. Surrounding yourself with people that are open minded and not afraid of their own thoughts is important. It will not only help you become a deeper and more open individual, but it will help you encourage others to do the same.
This blog is meant to distribute this complex idea into the masses. It’s important to delve deeper into the human mind like Tony does in order to remain connected to yourself. Don’t be afraid to formulate your own ideas and come up with your own intelligent ideas about life, love, and the pursuit of happiness.
I began using Twitter in 2009 right before I graduated high school. I didn’t
really use it to tweet my thoughts, but rather to interact with my friends and even some of my teachers.
Upon attending the first PRSSA meeting of the semester in January of this year, I was tempted to get back on twitter after deleting my old account. I made a new twitter name and thought I would give it another shot. I was excited as my followers grew to much more than I expected and tried to tweet a little bit each day.
The reason I decided to try Twitter again was because some of my professors, mentors, and other credible people in my life said that it was a nice addition to put on a resume. It would allow employers to view my writing style, see what type of people I follow and interact with…things like that. However, the more and more that I use Twitter, the more I want to stop.
I kept up with updating my tweets for about two weeks. The more friends I added from the Speech Communications department, I realized that they weren’t really using it for an opportunity to impress employers. They are using it as it should be used…as a social media site. I don’t agree with the use of Twitter as a way to showcase my written talent or other aspects of my life.
Twitter hasn’t received very many updates from me because I literally just can’t stand the site. I don’t like the format and I don’t see the same “addictive nature” that I can understand with Facebook. Some things should just be kept personal, and Twitter is one of those things. I never plan on mentioning my Twitter name on any professional form whatsoever.
On Monday, there was yet another school tragedy in Chardon High School, located in a small suburb of Cleveland, Ohio. A boy by the name of Thomas “T.J.” Lane, entered the school at 7:30 a.m. and opened fire on several students. As the days have passed, the public has learned that the death toll is now at two, with two remaining in the hospital and one being released.
In an article from the New York Times, Lane sat an listened to the prosecutors read all of the accusations against him. He admitted to everything in the courtroom and actually looked genuinely upset about what he did. He even whispered, “I am so sorry,” to his aunt and uncle in the courtroom. The judge has until Thursday to sentence him.
This is such an extremely sad story to me. I have read a few articles where Lane was described as being quiet, and nice, but troubled. He was even attending an alternative school for at-risk youth in his area. Of course, there are reports that he had been bullied and had a rough home life. His father and mother apparently had numerous arrests for domestic battery and a violent history themselves. This is definitely a flag in the anti-bullying community and a case for a nature vs. nurture debate.
This makes me think…what can we (society) do to prevent this? Can it even be prevented in the first place? Unfortunately, I don’t think it can be prevented. People will not always see or hear what goes on behind closed doors. Kids will always slip through the cracks. I think anti-bullying and other organizations that work to stop this DO make a difference and should be commended. They reduce the risk of school shootings….but, they will never be able to eradicate them.
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The increasing popularity with Facebook cannot be denied. However. there is an abundance of opinions about content posted to the social media site and how it can impacts users in the future.
As a member of Facebook myself, I am extremely cautious about pictures, opinions, and other comments that I write on my page. I feel like this pictures and statuses can be found by simply Googling my name. I would never want a potential employer or anyone else of major importance to view my profile and get the wrong impression of me.
Not everyone agrees on this though. Some people believe that Facebook is a personal tool used to maintain and create new friendships. Therefore, they believe that censoring what we say and images we post is unnecessary. Some people use Facebook as a way to vent and speak what is on their mind since often times, they can’t in real life.
A perfect example of how Facebook can hinder an individual comes from one of my friends. She was having issues with her manager at work and posted quite a few harsh statements about her on Facebook. Some of her coworkers caught sight of the statements and reported it back to her manager. My friend was forces to quit a job of almost five years because she used Facebook as a way to vent her frustrations.
My opinion of Facebook is very simple. Be yourself, but keep it classy. Staying true to who you are and stating what is on your mind when it is necessary is fine as long as you monitor the vocabulary and think before you post.
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I have worked at Dollar General for almost three years. I have a fantastic boss, amazing coworkers, and a dedicated client base. Sometimes, working with the public can be really difficult. People complain, argue, and tell the same jokes over and over again. However, it is my job to make sure they leave the store happy and satisfied.
Being a cashier requires more than just standing behind the counter and ringing people out. I have other duties as well. I have to clean, straighten, help customers find what they need, fix things if they break and try and make shopping at the store a pleasant experience for everyone young and old.
I have formed friendships with many of our regular customers as well. I have watched children grow, people pass away, and know the life story of quite a few people. It’s nice when I see a familiar face walk through the door because it’s nice to know that my job allows me to meet so many different people and form connections with them through a very basic job.
I truly believe and wish that everyone should work in retail at least once in their life because it provides so many different scenarios and situations that need to be confronted before you start a career. It helps with problem solving, teamwork, money handling, and many other things as well.
Although I may complain about my job sometimes, I do love working there and all of the things that retail and the people that I have met have taught me. I am very thankful.
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Watching the news almost everynight, people are bound to hear some of the craziest things. At least, that’s what happend the other night while I was watching the local news at the end of the night.
The story that I was listening to was about Alyssa Bustamante, an 18-year-old girl that killed her 9-year-old neighbor,Elizabeth Olten, in 2009. The news story from, KSDK-St.Louis, was discussing sections from Bustamante’s journal that were absolutely shocking.
Exerpts taken from her journal gave detailed decriptions about what was going on in her mind after killing Elizabeth Olten. KSDK’s news segment quotes Bustamante’s journal, “I just killed someone. I strangled them and slit their throat and stabbed them now they’re dead. As soon as you get over the ‘ohmygawd I can’t do this’ feeling,’ it’s kind of enjoyable.”
In my opinion, this is absolutely frightening. There is something very wrong with this girl. Looking at her mugshot sends chills up my spine. It really makes me think about what could be going on in the mind of this sick indivual. There is such an emptiness in her eyes, almost as if she is not totally there.
Authorities say that this was pre-meditated because Bustamante had dug not one…but two graves before killing her neighbor. One of the most quoted references to this story is, “I just wanted to know what it felt like to kill someone.” Bustamante took the life of an innocent little girl just to see how it felt?! Is that a joke?
Stories like this really make you value sanity. As funny as that may sound, it’s a serious statement. Bustamante has something very wrong with her and the events that occurred because of her insanity has caused a family to lose a daughter, granddaughter, and best friend.